This subject follows “The Ten Irrefutable Laws Of Horsemanship.” It will empower you in a life with horses, allow you to become a better horseman improving every day, and will make you a better human with your relationships with other people in your life.
Let’s make an example. Pretend you own a boarding barn and most days you want to spend your entire time out in the barn no matter what weather is coming from the sky. But eventually there is an irritating boarder where you just want to hide in the house to avoid them. If you have ever experienced this feeling then I want you to apply that exact feeling to the horse that sees you come into the barn. If the horse doesn’t like you or what you do to them the reaction from the horse will also be to hide. Maybe this won’t happen at first because you are believing that food equals love and they come to you for the food. But when asked to actually work, the horse says goodbye.
What most professional trainers and horsemanship instructors do is they try to CHANGE THE HORSE or they teach the students to change the horse. This never works. Evidence for this can be seen with the barn owner in the above example. The barn owner tries to change the irritating boarder with written signs or confrontation. Eventually the boarder leaves or is asked to leave. The same is true in a marriage when one spouse tries to change the other.
The key to horsemanship is to change yourself. Learning leadership is a job made only for you and your self improvement. I often joke that the only gimmick I would sell to a person wanting to become a better horseman is a full length mirror. When having trouble, stand in front of it and figure out what is wrong with you.
In the boarding example above, what if the irritating boarder went to the barn owner and said they were going to change themselves and try to become a better person. You can agree that this might take some time but at some point the barn owner would no longer be afraid to come out of the house when the once irritating boarder arrived on the farm. This same experience will happen over time as the horse recognizes the change in you. They will want to follow you because you have become a leader.
I have more to say about this but now you know the core of what horsemanship is. It is leadership and it comes from changing YOU and not the horse. No gimmicks needed.
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